Posted by Godefroi on August 27, 2008
Always remember….Islam highly regards and honors women.
Want proof? An example is right here.
Husband forcing his wife to have intercourse[Q:] Is it permissible for a man to force his wife or slave to have intercourse if she refuses?.[A:] Praise be to Allaah.
The woman does not have the right to refuse her husband, rather she must respond to his request every time he calls her, so long as that will not harm her or keep her from doing an obligatory duty.
Al-Bukhaari (3237) and Muslim (1436) narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.”
If she refuses with no excuse, she is disobeying and is being defiant (nushooz), and he is no longer obliged to spend on her and clothe her.
The husband should admonish her and remind her of the punishment of Allaah, and forsake her in her bed. He also has the right to hit her, in a manner that does not cause injury. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allaah is Ever Most High, Most Great”
Hey, Sheik (or whatever)…I hate to quibble, but that verse doesn’t say anything about seeing “ill conduct”, it refers to those from whom the man merely fears “ill conduct”. Also, your parenthetical interpolations are just that – they’re not actually in the text either.
Similarly a slave woman does not have the right to refuse her master’s requests unless she has a valid excuse.
Isn’t that wonderful? A wife is on par with a slave woman. How elevating!!